A little while ago I went to Sydney for some extra training – there is always more to learn!
The training looked at the relationship between our Beliefs, Fears and Habits and was a most worthwhile workshop.
The following article has excerpts from the workshop.
Our “BELIEFS” are formed when Emotions we attached to the experiences in our life are combined with our existing or constructed Mental patterns.
Our “FEAR” response is when our Emotional reaction is expressed Physically.
Our “HABITS” are formed when our Mental patterns are expressed through Physical activity. Beliefs represent one of the larger frameworks for behaviour.
When you really believe something, you will behave congruently with that belief. In reference to “beliefs” around people’s health there have been many studies and books written on the positive effects of strong positive beliefs helping people overcome all types of illnesses. It has been shown that there are in fact three important parts to the belief process: a person needs to believe that their goal is achievable and that they will do whatever it takes in order to reach their goal and that they expect the outcome to happen.
Our “Fears” come to us in many guises and can be represented by emotions such as fear, anxiety, shame or guilt. It is possible to turn the Energy of Fear into Courage.
We were told at the workshop of an old Chinese saying: “One disease, long life; no disease, short life”. This translated means that if you know your weaknesses you can live sensibly and wisely, and protect yourself from danger. However if you don’t know your weaknesses you may delude yourself that you are safe and well when you are not, or you may think that your danger lies in one direction when it lies in another. The end result of such ignorance is that, at best, you fail to become the person that you might have been, and, at worst, you suffer terribly.
We all have weaknesses – there is no way to avoid that – however we needn’t allow ourselves to feed fear through our weakness. We can learn to deal with fear so that we are no longer overwhelmed by it, or forced to defend against it.
Another interesting fact that arouse out of the workshop is that the way we give other people the power to “hurt” us is to see other people as more powerful than us, as more valuable than us, as better than us, as having the right to criticise us, to talk down to us, to insult us, to deprive us, to punish and to injure us. If we value ourselves we are not impressed by the claims to power that other people make. If we value ourselves we see ourselves as being as valuable as all the other people. If we value ourselves we see ourselves as the equal of all other people. If we value ourselves we accept helpful advice, but we do not accept destructive criticism, or allow ourselves to be belittled, or insulted, or deprived, punished or injured.
To destroy fear we have to accept ourselves and to let other people accept themselves and for us to accept them as they are.
Most of the reasons why a person would not be able to resolve their emotional conflicts is because of their habits of either doing that emotional behaviour, or some other habit that is associated with that emotional behaviour. Stuck in old habits can be the primary reason why a person may not be able to get over some particular stress in life. When a person is not doing something out of an old habit they are adapting to the changes going on around them and are able to learn easily the new and better habits to support themselves in the future.
Working on your Beliefs, Fears and Habits may be just what you need.